Relationship Reflections

What is in a relationship? There is so much confusion about what this term means. Re-la-tion-ship: n. 1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association. 2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship. 3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealing with each other: 4. A romantic or sexual involvement. In this definition of relationship it states that there are similarities that tie two or more people together in some way or fashion. The problem I am having with this is no matter how my people have tried to related and be on the same page of existence with the rest of the world. We are still seen as the minority and less than human. The statement that Shonkoff & Philips made in 2004 is hypocritical to me. When I think about this statement it I can only come to the conclusion that he was speaking of his own people and not anyone else for the sake of education. If we are to have “healthy” building blocks in relationships, we need to first drop the definitions and intellectual misconceptions that all people are equal and will be treated in that fact. For example, all of my life I have been looked down upon because of someone else’s misconception of what it is to be a man of the African descent. How did these relationships form or develop? From propaganda and self-hatred being spread by those who don’t understand why they are not the same. We have programs that want to paint a picture that people are seriously trying to get along no matter what creed you come from but it is just not true at all. We see it in politics, we see it in our education, and we see it in our homes as well. The mind is a powerful instrument to control or condition to a person’s will. The point that I am trying to make is that in the definition of relationship, the point of having any kind of spiritual connection with every living thing has been taken out of understanding which leaves room for error on the human level of existence. How can you make a relationship withstand the test of time? Be honest in your findings of the individuals that you come in contact with and share those experiences without bias. We as humans fail to do this time and time again. That is why we don’t live in harmony with nature. For those of us who are trying to reestablish that connection or relationship; there are those who don’t want to see the change due to fear of the unknown and unseen. I have come to the conclusion that looking for the good in people will only lead me to be lying to myself that all humanity will change for the better. There are too many egos and the need to fulfill the egos need is more important than survival and being in harmony with nature so we can be as one and get along with one another. There are too many power struggles and the destruction of the spirit and mind is always in the forefront of the battle for peace. The only relationships that I hold dear are those in which there is not judgment because my brainwave patterns are different; the fact that I would rather look at the sky versus looking at a television. The fact that I see no difference between man and woman except for the fact that woman holds all the keys to existence in her womb and man seems to want to always destroy that connection. I have no faith in man because man has destroyed so much of this world and taken away most of what kept us in harmony with the universe. What would my life be without the relationships in which I speak of? I will leave that up to you to figure out. I have answered the questions that the instructor asked me to answer to the best of MY knowledge. To try to reflect on someone else’s beliefs and understanding will take away from my own experience. I hope you understand, I don’t see relationships with people, I see their spirit because that is what they are. As a childcare professional, dealing with children is to deal with the spirit in its purest form. Who would I be to taint that being the way most of the world has done already? My job is to protect and teach these special children how to protect themselves against that sort of corruption as well. Thank you…

When do racists begin to teach our children?

I am sending out a message to those who may be wondering but not being able to put their finger on what is wrong with that particular teacher! We love our children and want them to get the best out of education that they possibly can right?! Well, there are some schools that employ individuals that are racist and don't care about removing them from their position because they feel like it would hurt the schools reputation.

I put my daughter in public school in Henderson North Carolina at a school named E.M. Rollins this past October. In the mists of her going she would come home and tell me and her mother about a teacher that was always saying negative things about the students to their faces and making remarks that were damaging to their spirits. There have been numerous complaints about this individual, needless to say me and her mother paid a visit to the school to see what was going on and the principal was so assuring that he would take care of it and get to the bottom of the situation. It had been three weeks and there was nothing done at all. We then asked for a meeting with all the teachers that my daughter was being seen by and asked for progress reports.

My daughter was being tested for the gifted program and the only problem she was having was in this particular teachers class. Because of the sensitivity of this situation and the law. I don't want to say this person's name but I will say that he is the only language arts teacher that this school has and he is one of the most evilest people that I have ever met. I searched on line about this person and he used to have a web blog named "Home in Henderson". I would encourage everyone to take a look at this blog site if it is still up for viewing, but I believe that it's not any longer because of his content he was asked to take it down. Now these are issues that are still in our public school systems and I swear that if people can't get past the fact that we people of color are in existence, they just need to kill themselves and save us all the misery. Yes I said they need to take care of it and vanish! It is old energy and the children need to see something else besides ignorance! I won't say that I was naive in thinking that she would be okay in a town that is prodominately African-American, but the things that I have seen come from some the White and black people in this town is sickning.

I am trying to concieve the notion as to why people are acting like they are out of their minds when they are dealing with children? All they want is to be taken care of when they are away from home just like we would if we were little. But the fact that we use our position to demean the character of our children and make them less than what they are should not be taken lightly. And if it were not for laws of slander, I would definately let you all know who this "A"hole is just in case you were deciding to visit Henderson, North Caronlina....

Those who have wisdom will seek out the truth....

"When I Look Into Your Eyes"

I have seen many postings and comments about children but I just can't seem to address them to use to describe my experience of having children. I know that children are extentions of our selves and that makes us immortal. I know that children are the extentions of our ancestors so that our DNA can go further in the universe. With this knowledge, I give respect to those who have positive things to say about children but I am going to use my own thoughts in how I describe a child that is my own. To use a quote is not my own words, it will not really be a honest description of how I feel about children so therefore...



This is dedicated to my son Ade'...

Waiting for your laughter a poem by Obadele A. Bomani

When I first though of you the thunder rolled across the sky
I heard laughter in the clouds
Then the heavens created you
Atoms began to vibrate and synapsis created bliss
Lightning struck the imagination of our beings
Then the definition of you came into existence
9 months of hunger, turbulent waters, and you hiding from pictures
Our love growing with every trimester
Listening to your heart beating then you began to kick your father and mother
As the days went by patiently waiting to hear your laughter
When you were able to see, your hand met mine
You seemed to respond when I sung that song “Time After Time”
Your father is so grateful for the being that your mother brought forth in the world
Ade’ the returning crown is born…

What is the problem with color?

I can remember back when I was in 8th grade and me and my brother wanted to go out and play some football in the snow. It was a bright sunny day and we had nothing better to do. It was early at or around maybe 11 in the morning. My brother decided he wanted to make snow forts like we did when we were younger and have football wars. I said cool and started to dig trenches in the snow while doing the big brother thing and blast him with snowballs when he wasn't looking. Then when we were really getting into enjoying ourselves, two other boys who were Caucasian walked up and took my brother's football and walked off. I was heated instantly because there was still racial tension where I lived. Black people were always subject to racial profiling and discrimination. When the boys took my brother's football,one of them said "these niggers won't mind us borrowing there football". Laughed and proceeded to walk away like it was okay. I looked at my brother and he had tears in his eyes because I bought him that football, made me go off. After being called a nigger in school then being called it again in front of my own house was enough. So I sent the boy to the hospital with 21 stitches to the face. The next incident was in school and there was this boy who thought he was the cream of the crop of Caucasian boys thought he could bully the black kids all the time till he faced me and a group of my boys. I remember we were in English class and the teacher left out to make copies and as soon as she left the room he balled off and smacks me in the back of the head and says to his friend "you gotta keep'm in line every now and then". So I kicked his butt in front of his friend and his friend got it too for laughing.

In America, it's custom for Caucasian people to look at people of color like they have a problem. This infection of the mind started a long time before there was a African slave trade. Fear was there ammunition and still is to this day. They use television and the news to do it eloquently and most of the people that are in other countries and ignorant to the fact that we are beautiful people need a reality check as well. I have talked to people from the middle east and they all have told me that they don't like the propaganda that America tells because most of it are lies just to get a reaction from the people. If I had to look at another country and talk about the racism involved it would be Rowanda because they committed a mass genocide because British intelligence were too involved with their affairs and they did nothing to try to save those people from themselves.


There are so many countries that commit racism only because they are lacking self-love as a people and have no right to look down on any other type of race because if you have wisdom you would know that all civilization come from the womb of a "BLACK" woman.