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Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Communication is easy! But hard to understand...

This week we are asked if we communicate different from other people in different groups?  What ways do I communicate differently?

The foundation of this discussion is cultural diversity and what is seen in your colleagues at school, neighborhood, workplace, in the family; considering all the aspects that make up culture, race, religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation, varying abilities, and so on.

I have been asked to share strategies about what could be useful to me communicating more effectively to groups I have been identified with.  Well, there is no strategy for me because I have just learned how to be truthful with those I don’t know and in turn, some do the same for me.  I once walked up to a Korean man sitting just looking out of the window and asked him how he felt about being in America.  He turned to me with amazement and not scorn; said: “I always thought that America was a easy place to live, and not that I am here, I want to go home.”  He then asked me why did I want to know, and I said to him that the look on his face said that he wanted someone to talk to.  He laughed and said ‘is that so!’.  From that conversation, I learned how to say hello in Korean, goodbye, thank you, and see you again. 
While working in the shoe department at Macy’s just to do something for the summer a few years back.  I came across some Japanese.  They were very uptight at first and thought that I didn’t know what they were saying about me because I was American.  I shocked them back when I responded in Japanese and they too felt very ashamed for having to assume that I was ignorant to their culture and language.  That is why you never, ever judge a book by its cover, even in the early childhood field.  Don’t underestimate your children nor the adults you are teaching especially if parents are involved.  If you don’t know the level of intelligence they are carrying with them, it’s best to stay in your place until you know for sure when you should speak or ask questions.  Many problems can be averted from being humble, not humiliating.
To sum all this up will take more than one class session because I am many chosen my ancestors.  I am deeply coded and many will not understand the complexity of my being just through the simple use of words.  Over the years I have learned to communicate beyond just the context of cognition and every cycle of life around the sun, I evolve.  This evolution will never stop even in the next life.  We are not bound or promised this life or the next.  The only purpose we are here to fulfill is to understand why we are here and in between is up to us.
In my tradition, I am considered a father by universal law and by law of human consciousness.  The way I communicate is through the spirit of an individual.  Most may not see that on first contact but my aim is to communicate with a person’s spirit not the flesh.  The flesh can lie, steal, cheat, and be very cunning if not careful, but the spirit never lies…it can although, be very deceptive if you allow it to be.  It depends on the level of spiritual strength that a person has.
I have often been told that I am ahead of my time because of the way I think and it sometimes gets me into situations where I go over peoples’ heads and have to summarize or use a context that is easier to understand or conceptualize.  But one I turned a particular age, I figured out how to facilitate that in which I have learned by simply just asking what a person would like to know and if they want to whole truth or just a summarization?  Usually, this leads to a sit down and we must have a lot of water because it can take a long time.  Once the process starts it always leaves the person satisfied and fulfilled with new understandings and new ways of looking at things in life.  I then feel as if my job was done.  Now those that don’t want to respond or have nothing to say usually are thinking on how to come back and start all over again or ask someone else that gives them what they want to hear instead of the core elements.
Through my mistakes with communicating with people has taught me to be a deep thinker.  Look at what others seem uninteresting because there one will find the answers to many of the issues about life as we think we know it.  In between the lines is where the truth lies!  I don’t think like the average person for a reason, one it’s because of the time of year I was born. Two, the planets that were in alignment when I was born; third, the energy that surrounded me when I was born was passed down from my mother from my ancestors.  It’s not rocket science to figure these things out about yourself, but you have to be willing to accept the truth about who you really are and that makes all the stress of the world not rest on your shoulders alone.
Communication with other people has always been easy for me because I am not afraid to ask how do you say hello in your native tongue?  How do you say thank you in your native tongue?  So far I have learned how to say hello in 7 different languages and dialects.  I have learned how to be formal and informal in many different situations with that foundation I have been able to break all barriers that keep people distant from one another.  The only thing that I haven’t done yet is just travel the world and sit with people just to learn their customs to bring them all together.  That is the work of my doctrine and I am ready…I am ready for the change of this world, and the people who live here as well.


2 comments:

  1. It seems that you are a great communicator! I like to think that we all have room to improve. I admire you for being such a people's person. It seems that you're not afraid to meet new people. I have gotten better with this, but I still have along way to go. While I love meeting new people, I tend to be very shy at first. Thanks so much for sharing your post.

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    1. Amber, your name means to have courage and strength in your soul, your lifeforce. Never forget that...Fear is a weakness taught to us by those who wear it like a cloak, they use it for control over your mind...Don't ever be afraid of who you are...you want to have strength in communicating effectively, practice in the mirror until the mirror is no longer useful...Never mind how silly it feels at first, but seduce yourself with your own words. Hold your own attention then practice with someone else in speaking your thoughts...One of the keys to doing this is forgetting that you are speaking to a group of people or just one person, but you are talking to the being inside of them. When you talk to your students or children, get down to their level and just relax and let them guide you. After a while of practice, you will speak without effort...those individuals that you used to be shy speaking around will be turning their heads wanting to listen to you speak because you have a beautiful voice. Never be afraid to use it...even when you sing, sing with conviction, sing with purpose, speak with purpose, people will listen to you and never let anyone tell you otherwise...Tell them I said so...lol

      Peace sister...

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