This week we were asked to talk about disagreements that we
may have had back at some point of time…whether it was yesterday or this
morning, reflection on this issue and how to solve it without conflict is the
key aspect of this week.
For this
assignment I wanted to talk about a disagreement that I overheard when I was at
a spoken word gathering some time ago. I
was sitting in the back of the lounge and I overheard a young lady crying to
herself. My first instinct was I hope
that she isn’t battered or abused, or worse emotionally disturbed to the 10th
degree. Come to find out she saw her man
with another woman and she was pregnant.
From the outside looking in, it was really a f’d up situation and to be
honest; waiting for him to get is butt kicked.
But since it was none of my business, I stayed out of it and just
listened to what was going on. Yes, I
was ear hustlin’, man these stories be priceless!
Well,
needless to say, her ex man left the scene and she was still there getting herself
together and it seemed that she had friends to cheer her up. After about an hour things started to pick up
and it was my turn to the mic and I was thinking about the situation that I
witnessed. I thought that if I said something
in the reference of love I would get boo’d off the stage so I figured to say
something funny so that it would take her mind off of her disappointment. It worked from what I saw and she gave me a
big hug afterwards and said thank you. I
never asked her name nor wanted anything special. It just seemed like the right thing to
do. Come to find out she ended up a
famous poet and since it has been 15 years since that situation, I don’t even
remember her stage name but I remember her voice and from that I knew I did
something good.
I know that
conflict resolution can be very difficult at times and we don’t always have the
correct answer, but if you are listening to the cues, then you just may find
out the right way to respond if you are on the receiving end. If you were in a situation like myself, the
it’s best to stay out of the situation because you may end up getting beat up….lol
Seriously, we all can stand to be in our own back yard
sometimes not exposing our roots because we don’t know what the neighbors think
about us. Even so, I would still say
hello just to make the heavens feel good.
To be miserable is a choice, to be combative is a choice, but to have
love in your heart and use it for what is supposed to be used for takes
training…
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