What they don't want you to know about who you really are...

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Knowledge is power, but knowing when to use that power is the lesson...

This week we were asked to talk about disagreements that we may have had back at some point of time…whether it was yesterday or this morning, reflection on this issue and how to solve it without conflict is the key aspect of this week.

            For this assignment I wanted to talk about a disagreement that I overheard when I was at a spoken word gathering some time ago.  I was sitting in the back of the lounge and I overheard a young lady crying to herself.  My first instinct was I hope that she isn’t battered or abused, or worse emotionally disturbed to the 10^th degree.  Come to find out she saw her man with another woman and she was pregnant.   From the outside looking in, it was really a f’d up situation and to be honest; waiting for him to get is butt kicked.  But since it was none of my business, I stayed out of it and just listened to what was going on.  Yes, I was ear hustlin’, man these stories be priceless!

            Well, needless to say, her ex man left the scene and she was still there getting herself together and it seemed that she had friends to cheer her up.  After about an hour things started to pick up and it was my turn to the mic and I was thinking about the situation that I witnessed.  I thought that if I said something in the reference of love I would get boo’d off the stage so I figured to say something funny so that it would take her mind off of her disappointment.  It worked from what I saw and she gave me a big hug afterwards and said thank you.  I never asked her name nor wanted anything special.  It just seemed like the right thing to do.  Come to find out she ended up a famous poet and since it has been 15 years since that situation, I don’t even remember her stage name but I remember her voice and from that I knew I did something good.

            I know that conflict resolution can be very difficult at times and we don’t always have the correct answer, but if you are listening to the cues, then you just may find out the right way to respond if you are on the receiving end.  If you were in a situation like myself, the it’s best to stay out of the situation because you may end up getting beat up….lol

Seriously, we all can stand to be in our own back yard sometimes not exposing our roots because we don’t know what the neighbors think about us.  Even so, I would still say hello just to make the heavens feel good.  To be miserable is a choice, to be combative is a choice, but to have love in your heart and use it for what is supposed to be used for takes training…

Can improper communication cause abnormalities in your DNA?

This week we were asked to give a description of how we personally communicate to others and what they think of you as a communicator.  I found that I had quite a few different remarks and all of them were the same in some way.  I first asked my wife, then my daughter since I am her teacher, and a close friend.  I was told that in my communicating with others, be mindful that the use of words can get inside a person.  So that the words that you use can trigger certain responses in the synapsis of the brain.  We all know that some words are emotional triggers and others can be very destructive especially to those that are very emotionally sensitive.

I was told that I am a person who has power behind his voice and thoughts and be mindful that there are some just a strong as I am in communication and to be aware that there are times when a person may not be debating with you but sharing the same thoughts but communicating them in a different way.

When I asked my wife what did she think of me communicating with other people?  She said that she admires that I can reach anyone that I talk to.  She would like to do that but because of her way of thinking it is okay for her not to.  I really don't like to talk about myself because I feel exposed so that is all I will say about me!..lol

Another way of looking at communication and how it is used; can be seen like the differences between the senses that we have.  We that have a little of human anatomy or physiology background know and understand that if one person has a defect in one of their senses, then the remaining senses kick in to compensate right!  So lets take it a step further to say that with a group or collection of words can be used to get a reaction out of a certain class or race of people at any part of the world at any given time.  Knowing this part of the equation can tell us that what we read in newspapers or magazines may be what our brain wants us to input.  Those negative triggers causes pre-concluded episodes of temporary insanity amongst the people that are taking in this propaganda.  So it is safe to say that what you read can hurt you and what you see can blind you, what you say can be used against you and what you feel can cause confusion.

The one thing that I was told about my communication is that I can sometimes be long winded.  There are times when I would be talking to group of people and take them to a place that they are not ready to see in their minds and because of that they sometimes get lost in translation.  I was told that it was a good thing to a degree because it forces people to think and open their minds up to other possibilities that are out there that we as humans don’t look at because we are given way too many choices.

My wife sometimes tells me that she gets confused about what I am saying only because she doesn’t listen all the time.  That she has a lot on her mind and some of what is being said can be lost.  That goes to say, that when you have someone’s attention, say what you mean and mean what you say.  Let what you say have substance so that the dark matter in your brain can properly code exactly what needs to be addressed at that particular time and space so that your DNA code is stronger the next generation to come…