What they don't want you to know about who you really are...

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Knowledge is power, but knowing when to use that power is the lesson...

This week we were asked to talk about disagreements that we may have had back at some point of time…whether it was yesterday or this morning, reflection on this issue and how to solve it without conflict is the key aspect of this week.

            For this assignment I wanted to talk about a disagreement that I overheard when I was at a spoken word gathering some time ago.  I was sitting in the back of the lounge and I overheard a young lady crying to herself.  My first instinct was I hope that she isn’t battered or abused, or worse emotionally disturbed to the 10^th degree.  Come to find out she saw her man with another woman and she was pregnant.   From the outside looking in, it was really a f’d up situation and to be honest; waiting for him to get is butt kicked.  But since it was none of my business, I stayed out of it and just listened to what was going on.  Yes, I was ear hustlin’, man these stories be priceless!

            Well, needless to say, her ex man left the scene and she was still there getting herself together and it seemed that she had friends to cheer her up.  After about an hour things started to pick up and it was my turn to the mic and I was thinking about the situation that I witnessed.  I thought that if I said something in the reference of love I would get boo’d off the stage so I figured to say something funny so that it would take her mind off of her disappointment.  It worked from what I saw and she gave me a big hug afterwards and said thank you.  I never asked her name nor wanted anything special.  It just seemed like the right thing to do.  Come to find out she ended up a famous poet and since it has been 15 years since that situation, I don’t even remember her stage name but I remember her voice and from that I knew I did something good.

            I know that conflict resolution can be very difficult at times and we don’t always have the correct answer, but if you are listening to the cues, then you just may find out the right way to respond if you are on the receiving end.  If you were in a situation like myself, the it’s best to stay out of the situation because you may end up getting beat up….lol

Seriously, we all can stand to be in our own back yard sometimes not exposing our roots because we don’t know what the neighbors think about us.  Even so, I would still say hello just to make the heavens feel good.  To be miserable is a choice, to be combative is a choice, but to have love in your heart and use it for what is supposed to be used for takes training…

Can improper communication cause abnormalities in your DNA?

This week we were asked to give a description of how we personally communicate to others and what they think of you as a communicator.  I found that I had quite a few different remarks and all of them were the same in some way.  I first asked my wife, then my daughter since I am her teacher, and a close friend.  I was told that in my communicating with others, be mindful that the use of words can get inside a person.  So that the words that you use can trigger certain responses in the synapsis of the brain.  We all know that some words are emotional triggers and others can be very destructive especially to those that are very emotionally sensitive.

I was told that I am a person who has power behind his voice and thoughts and be mindful that there are some just a strong as I am in communication and to be aware that there are times when a person may not be debating with you but sharing the same thoughts but communicating them in a different way.

When I asked my wife what did she think of me communicating with other people?  She said that she admires that I can reach anyone that I talk to.  She would like to do that but because of her way of thinking it is okay for her not to.  I really don't like to talk about myself because I feel exposed so that is all I will say about me!..lol

Another way of looking at communication and how it is used; can be seen like the differences between the senses that we have.  We that have a little of human anatomy or physiology background know and understand that if one person has a defect in one of their senses, then the remaining senses kick in to compensate right!  So lets take it a step further to say that with a group or collection of words can be used to get a reaction out of a certain class or race of people at any part of the world at any given time.  Knowing this part of the equation can tell us that what we read in newspapers or magazines may be what our brain wants us to input.  Those negative triggers causes pre-concluded episodes of temporary insanity amongst the people that are taking in this propaganda.  So it is safe to say that what you read can hurt you and what you see can blind you, what you say can be used against you and what you feel can cause confusion.

The one thing that I was told about my communication is that I can sometimes be long winded.  There are times when I would be talking to group of people and take them to a place that they are not ready to see in their minds and because of that they sometimes get lost in translation.  I was told that it was a good thing to a degree because it forces people to think and open their minds up to other possibilities that are out there that we as humans don’t look at because we are given way too many choices.

My wife sometimes tells me that she gets confused about what I am saying only because she doesn’t listen all the time.  That she has a lot on her mind and some of what is being said can be lost.  That goes to say, that when you have someone’s attention, say what you mean and mean what you say.  Let what you say have substance so that the dark matter in your brain can properly code exactly what needs to be addressed at that particular time and space so that your DNA code is stronger the next generation to come…

Communication is easy! But hard to understand...

This week we are asked if we communicate different from other people in different groups?  What ways do I communicate differently?

The foundation of this discussion is cultural diversity and what is seen in your colleagues at school, neighborhood, workplace, in the family; considering all the aspects that make up culture, race, religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation, varying abilities, and so on.

I have been asked to share strategies about what could be useful to me communicating more effectively to groups I have been identified with.  Well, there is no strategy for me because I have just learned how to be truthful with those I don’t know and in turn, some do the same for me.  I once walked up to a Korean man sitting just looking out of the window and asked him how he felt about being in America.  He turned to me with amazement and not scorn; said: “I always thought that America was a easy place to live, and not that I am here, I want to go home.”  He then asked me why did I want to know, and I said to him that the look on his face said that he wanted someone to talk to.  He laughed and said ‘is that so!’.  From that conversation, I learned how to say hello in Korean, goodbye, thank you, and see you again. 

While working in the shoe department at Macy’s just to do something for the summer a few years back.  I came across some Japanese.  They were very uptight at first and thought that I didn’t know what they were saying about me because I was American.  I shocked them back when I responded in Japanese and they too felt very ashamed for having to assume that I was ignorant to their culture and language.  That is why you never, ever judge a book by its cover, even in the early childhood field.  Don’t underestimate your children nor the adults you are teaching especially if parents are involved.  If you don’t know the level of intelligence they are carrying with them, it’s best to stay in your place until you know for sure when you should speak or ask questions.  Many problems can be averted from being humble, not humiliating.

To sum all this up will take more than one class session because I am many chosen my ancestors.  I am deeply coded and many will not understand the complexity of my being just through the simple use of words.  Over the years I have learned to communicate beyond just the context of cognition and every cycle of life around the sun, I evolve.  This evolution will never stop even in the next life.  We are not bound or promised this life or the next.  The only purpose we are here to fulfill is to understand why we are here and in between is up to us.

In my tradition, I am considered a father by universal law and by law of human consciousness.  The way I communicate is through the spirit of an individual.  Most may not see that on first contact but my aim is to communicate with a person’s spirit not the flesh.  The flesh can lie, steal, cheat, and be very cunning if not careful, but the spirit never lies…it can although, be very deceptive if you allow it to be.  It depends on the level of spiritual strength that a person has.

I have often been told that I am ahead of my time because of the way I think and it sometimes gets me into situations where I go over peoples’ heads and have to summarize or use a context that is easier to understand or conceptualize.  But one I turned a particular age, I figured out how to facilitate that in which I have learned by simply just asking what a person would like to know and if they want to whole truth or just a summarization?  Usually, this leads to a sit down and we must have a lot of water because it can take a long time.  Once the process starts it always leaves the person satisfied and fulfilled with new understandings and new ways of looking at things in life.  I then feel as if my job was done.  Now those that don’t want to respond or have nothing to say usually are thinking on how to come back and start all over again or ask someone else that gives them what they want to hear instead of the core elements.

Through my mistakes with communicating with people has taught me to be a deep thinker.  Look at what others seem uninteresting because there one will find the answers to many of the issues about life as we think we know it.  In between the lines is where the truth lies!  I don’t think like the average person for a reason, one it’s because of the time of year I was born. Two, the planets that were in alignment when I was born; third, the energy that surrounded me when I was born was passed down from my mother from my ancestors.  It’s not rocket science to figure these things out about yourself, but you have to be willing to accept the truth about who you really are and that makes all the stress of the world not rest on your shoulders alone.

Communication with other people has always been easy for me because I am not afraid to ask how do you say hello in your native tongue?  How do you say thank you in your native tongue?  So far I have learned how to say hello in 7 different languages and dialects.  I have learned how to be formal and informal in many different situations with that foundation I have been able to break all barriers that keep people distant from one another.  The only thing that I haven’t done yet is just travel the world and sit with people just to learn their customs to bring them all together.  That is the work of my doctrine and I am ready…I am ready for the change of this world, and the people who live here as well.

What can a Spy say to you that you can't hear?

This week we were asked to:

For this assignment, again consider what you have been learning about communication skills and styles. Then record an episode of a television show you do not normally watch. 

Watch the show with the sound turned off.

What do you think the characters' relationships are based on the ways in which they are communicating?
What are they feeling and expressing based on the nonverbal behavior you are observing?

Now, watch the show with the sound turned on.

What assumptions did you make about the characters and plot based on the ways in which you interpreted the communication you observed?
Would your assumptions have been more correct if you had been watching a show you know well?
Write about your experience in your blog, including what you learned about communication from this experience and insights or "aha" moments you believe would be helpful to your colleagues.

(Adapted from O'Hair & Wiemann, 2012, p. 154)

I used Hulu on this one and watched some show called "SPY"

Well with the sound turned off, I noticed that the main character (Tim Elliot; played by Darron Boyd) is an clumsy, confused, an idiot, living a double life and has an ex-wife from hell.  lol

His son (Marcus Elliot, play by Jude Wright) who is a manipulative little twit!  Seems to be the ring leader of many of the exploits at his school...his attitude towards his father is that he hates him.  He thinks his father is dimwitted.  Which in fact he is at times but he manages.  The mother he can't stand because he see's that she is bossy and overly manipulative.  He just wants to live a life without the both of them.

As I was watching the show with the sound off, I noticed that Tim is desperately trying to have a relationship with his son and his ex-wife hates him and always is trying to take the son away from him.  The boss (The Examiner) is a freak who doesn't know which gender to exploit but he likes Tim and tries to kill his assistant all the time and it's funny.  The son seemed to be a mastermind of trouble and gets into situations that he almosts learns what his father really does for a living.  Tim is in love with Field partner ( Caitlin ) and he gets fumbled up whenever she is in the room.  From what it looked like with the sound was off was that this was one of those shows that will have you rollin' on the couch.

Of course I had to watch the episodes with the sound off a few times but I enjoyed it because it helped me to train reading people's lips.  This is something that I learned when I was a kid because I had a friend was was mute and I learned a little bit of sign language to communicate with him.   I tried to sound out what was being said but the English accents were kind of bothersome, but I got it in some cases and made my daughter laugh uncontrollably at times cause she thought I was coming up with my own skit or something.

Needless to say, with the sound on it was a different story...

I was on point about the father being a loser and having a dysfunctional relationship with his son and ex-wife.  The whole show was about him and his son trying to work things out and having a room-mate that was always getting into trouble with the law.  He had a good relationship with the son and seemed to be scheming up all kinds of stuff to hid from his dad.  The son was a little gangster, exploiting the other kids into his dirty work,  There was an episode that the son was running a gambling ring out of his bedroom and all the kids were in on it until the room-mate came home and caught him;  then the next thing you know he was in one it....the boy is like Stewie from "The Family Guy".  

My observation about Tim liking Caitlin was right because of his body language and his eyes when she would talk to him.  She liked him and she was trying to hide it as well because they were at work.  And the Boss was a freak!  He was trying to get Tim to do special opps for him all the time showing him favor in the office and the other people were picking up on it and they were not liking Tim at all because of it.  The Boss seemed to always try secret weapons on people just for fun and get caught by his superiors and gets demoted.  The show was funny.  I ended up watching the whole thing after I turned the sound on....

This type of experiment took me back to relating to the relationship between the eyes and ears.  It is very well noticed that the ears can give the brain a picture of what is going on around you if you don't have any sight.  And the eyes can give you sound if you know how to regulate time and space using vibrations.  The body is a wonderful instrument when used properly in most cases and in this assignment, we were asked to use our sense to get what is being communicated nonverbally and verbally.  We were asked to look at what make things click with our own rational in consideration of these communication techniques.

Needless to say, it was a interesting assignment....

DON'T FORGET TO BREATHE...

There are times when we are so caught up in our everyday lives that we forget to just exhale...take the time to reconnect with yourself...many of us may have that 9 to 5 and that boss is so anal that you just want to push them down and poor coffee on their heads...don't let the stress of the society that YOU built get the best of you.  Yes I said you built this society, because you didn't take control of your own life.  You let the government do it for you...you let fear do it for you...you left your life in someone elses hands...so at this time be thankful that you are still breathing...kids got you stressed...laugh it off...that significant other got you pissed...laugh it off...that boss make you want to put the smack down on them...laugh it off...then exhale and say "you know what, my reality is my own and you don't have control over that"...

Peace!

When the influence of words changes the way we think...

In my first week of class "Communication and Collaborating in the Early Childhood Field".  We were asked to talk about who used communication in such a way that it changed my way of thinking.  The question is as follows:

For your blog this week, think of someone (e.g., family member, celebrity, politician, friend, or professor) who demonstrates competent communication within a particular context. What behaviors does this person exhibit that make him or her effective? Would you want to model some of your own communication behaviors after this person? Why or why not?

After careful consideration of all the people that I have come across.  It would be difficult because not just one person or thing has influenced me to be the man I am today...If I had to choose, it would be my destiny's behavior that has demonstrated competent communication with me in a certain context to mold me into who I am.  Can destiny be a living energy?  Yes it can depending on the person's will...

I will say that the universe has its ways of teaching us when we really want to know and have knowledge.  In my tradition, it is encouraged to seek what you want to know by asking questions and looking for yourself.  On a metaphysical account, the influences that I have had over these years have been by those who have passed on...(my ancestors)

My thanks go to them all...they are the blueprint in which I am created and facilitate their teachings.  Some may understand what I am saying and some may be confused and it's okay...for those who know not, one day they will understand for themselves.  In my process of learning how to function in this world we live in, I am one of many that utilizes all of nature and it's children for learning.  That is why I stated that it's not just one person or thing that has communicated with me to be who I am today.

I have been ordained to be a teacher and father since I was born to this Earth.  With that being said...I know who I am and why I am here.  I know and understand what I must do to keep that focus alive.  I see it in my children's eyes and the needful eyes of others who look to me for guidance.  So I guess it is safe to say that it is the God in me that has given me what I needed over these years to help me be the communicator, father, teacher I am today...

Racism is still alive and well anchored in North America (Hidden Camera)

ARE YOU PROUD OF WHERE YOU COME FROM....

People are waking up to the horrors of propaganda and the introduction of mental slavery.  The sad part is that those who started it don't want to face it, they don't want to change it, and they don't want to remember why they did it...

Another thing on my mind about research and children...

I was reading a college's post and it made me wonder about how doctor's and scientist approach certain families about research for the "greater good"...

I know that for some kind of evolution or social change for the better, some research has to be done; and I don't mean to offend at all but most of the research that I see is based on European decent and their offspring and other nationalities are 2nd, 3rd, and 4th...

I guess what I am trying to say is why can't people of the world just understand we bleed the same blood no matter what side of the tracks you come from. Why does it always have to be about race, or creed, or religion, or even social status? It is so disrespectful to me and to many others that people are grouped into categories like mice. I took my wife to see the new Star Trek and I noticed that in the future in movies there was no racism or speculations because on species of people were different from another. But it never ceases to amaze me that it's always a crazy man running and calling the shots.

Then it takes me back to an article that I read in the "Global Children's Initiative" where they said that they are in support of focused strategic objectives. It sounds so military to me, then it was also stated:

"The Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University was founded in 2006 on the belief that the vitality
and sustainability of any society depend on the extent to which it expands opportunities early in life for
all children to achieve their full potential and engage in responsible and productive citizenship."

www.developingchild.harvard.edu, "Global Children's Initiative")

To me wording is everything and it sounds like they are creating clones...that's just my opinion but that is how it sounds to me; as if your citizenship depends on how you are programmed by a specific system of education and if your children are not given belief at an early age that the sustainability of your society depends on how you do in school is not a warning of insanity...I don't know what does.

But again this is just me digging a little deeper and not just reading letters on the surface of the paper...

Research that Benefits Children and Families—Uplifting Stories

Option 2:

Imagine that you possess the means and the knowledge to conduct research studies about any topic in the early childhood field. Imagine further that you are not restricted by the reality of the present. Imagine that your study will make a major positive contribution to the well-being of children and/or their families. What topic would you choose? What can you imagine the positive contribution(s) would be?

If I had the means to change the way research was done about anything dealing with children.  My topic would be “How to deal with your children from the inside out”.  I would take out the stereotypes, take away the bias, take away all the misconceptions that were conceived in the mind from the beginning of what we think is civilization.

I would like to research children that had special gifts; via empathetic communication, telekinetic use of the mind (without mind altering devices or neural stimulants); study children that are sensitive to paranormal vibrations in order to control that gift without brainwashing. 

With all that being said, I would like to study children that are already being taught how to use that part of the brain that is supposed to be dormant.  I would like to watch children study the stars and planetary alignments which we call Astrology, numerology, and alchemy.  With these tools in a controlled environment show them how to connect with nature and the being within them.

Of course these are just my aspirations of how a child should be taught and revered, but in our society we have realistic issues that need addressing such as, poverty, lack of a the true definition of what education is really about.  We also have issues with children having too much stress at home and how it affects them emotionally, physically, spiritually, and psychologically.  Well, spirituality would get ruled out because some psychologist believe the notion that spirituality has nothing to do with psychology.  Just the word psyche talks about a realm of the brain that in on another plane of existence; and should be given more credit.  I gave an example of ADHD and what it was described as being in the DSM-IV as a disorder of the brain with a chemical imbalance.  But that is not all that it truly is. 

We can clinically give a definition in the realms of psychology because it is the study of the psyche, but to look at this disorder in it prime equation and understand its true workings.  It truly is a disorder of the energy construct of a particular human-being.  It’s not just a dysfunction of one part of the brain dealing with the neurotransmitters.  We are dealing with chakra imbalance; we are dealing with improper births and other types of abnormalities that are passed down through DNA.

    

                        If we were to logically think about the anxiety that children go through from the time of birth, through adolescence, through puberty, adulthood; then here comes death all over again.  Just the span of life for human being is stressful enough but in a child’s eyes that can’t just get up and go to another part of the city to get themselves together or shut down their emotions because there is dysfunction in their society bleeding that into the home.  The research of the Esoteric principles would help that a whole lot.  Why?  Because it will teach that child how to cope with themselves first then deal with life!

WEEK 2 Research can be misleading!

I am posting something that I had to post in my research in childhood development this week.  We all know that when looking up information on the internet can have its consequences which involves getting the facts wrong...

One thing that I learned when I was in abnormal psychology in undergraduate school was that you always look for more than one source of information.  No one man or woman's opinion is etched in stone...

The eyes can lie and cause disruption in your cognitive interpretation of information if not careful causing mass confusion and hysteria among colleges and social gatherings...

This is what is known as PROPAGANDA!

by definition means:

prop·a·gan·da  

/ˌpräpəˈgandə/

Noun Information, esp. of a biased or misleading nature, used to promote or publicize a particular political cause or point of view. The dissemination of such information as a political strategy.

Synonyms publicity - propagation

https://www.google.com/#hl=en&gs_rn=12&gs_ri=psy-ab&tok=feqRxakNUC9XrdLxCSXFwA&cp=31&gs_id=7d&xhr=t&q=what+is+the+definition+of+propaganda&es_nrs=true&pf=p&output=search&sclient=psy-ab&oq=what+is+the+definition+of+propa&gs_l=&pbx=1&bav=on.2,or.r_cp.r_qf.&bvm=bv.46471029,d.dmg&fp=8fef78980f38760f&biw=1422&bih=1010

Discussion Assignment: Checking Quality Criteria

“Like detectives, researchers have different ideas about the best way to do their work.  Some researchers pursue their research in a linear, logical and step-by-step way;  Deductive Research Methodology ” (Mac Nautghton, Rolfe, 2010)

Looking over the resources made me think of past classes that I have taken and I thought about “Issues and Trends in Early Childhood”.  I remembered a lot of articles that were scientific based and had a great deal of information when it came to the psychological aspects of childhood development.  As instructors or teacher; we sometimes get caught up in the academic part of the issues but not what is going on with the child or even adults since they are just big versions of children anyway.  Not to be disrespectful or anything, just think about it!  Every since we were little we wanted to be big and now that we are some of us wish that we were kids again…Some with to redo some of the experiences that we shared and some wish to never relive some childhood experiences.  Never the less, when it comes to documenting research, dealing with children and their experiences; we sometimes can put our own wishes or thoughts into the picture and make the research invalid. _{(Commentary by Obadele A. Bomani, 2013)}

Electronic media links:

Article 12: 

“The Science of Neglect:  The Persistent Absence of Responsive Care Disrupts the Developing Brain”; http://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/reports_and_working_papers/working_papers/wp12/.

Article 2:

“Children’s Emotional Development Is Built into the Architecture of Their Brains”;

http://developingchild.harvard.edu/index.php/resources/reports_and_working_papers/working_papers/wp2/.

       Sources were extracted from Harvard University Press, Center of the Developing Child.   The first article that I extracted was published in 2012.  The second article that I extracted was published 2004.

         Dates of publications are progressive and notated as working papers.

        All sources of information given by up to date sources and citations are given at the end of each document in the reference section as well as other publications for continued references.

        Address and contact information is given for all questions about publications.

The other or negative resource link is:

http://www.babycenter.com/0_getting-your-toddler-to-listen_11531.bc

Model good behavior
“Preschoolers will be better listeners if they see that you are a good listener, too. Make it a habit to listen to your child as respectfully as you would to any adult. Look at her when she talks to you, respond politely, and let her finish without interrupting whenever possible.”

Honestly, I hated this popping up in my newsfeed on my phone every single month as if everything that this center said was accurate to the letter…Oh how wrong they were!  I have a two year old that is smart as a 4 or 5 year old and acts like he is 60 years old…lol

Some children can watch you just to go against what you are doing so this statement is just an opinion and not a proven fact of the majority of children around the world.  Not only that,  it is not backed by university or professional study.  The reference that I gave above about modeling good behavior doesn’t work with him because he knows that he is his own person already.  He understands the differences between him and his sister, he understands between mother and father.  He knows who to call when he wants to get away with things and who does the grounding in the house.

The trouble with some of these types of articles is that it is in my opinion, geared toward the stay at home parent.  Notice I am not going to say stay at home mom because there are some fathers out there that would rather stay at home and be with their children.  I love my kids they make me laugh and feel young.  But again, this is my experience and may not fit another person’s experience as a parent…

One of the insights that we were asked to talk about was the research chart that was very helpful for the discussion in the class.  It helped me to look at other key areas of research that I was aware of already but help me to look deeper and ask more questions about the research being conducted.

References:

Mac Naughton, G., Rolfe, S.A., & Siraj-Blatchford, I. (2010). Doing early childhood research: International perspectives on theory and practice (2nd ed.). New York, NY: McGraw-Hill.

Electronic Media extracted: 05/15/13 from:

http://developingchild.harvard.edu/

Article 12: 

“The Science of Neglect: The Persistent Absence of Responsive Care Disrupts the Developing Brain”; http://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/reports_and_working_papers/working_papers/wp12/.

Article 2:

“Children’s Emotional Development Is Built into the Architecture of Their Brains”;

http://developingchild.harvard.edu/index.php/resources/reports_and_working_papers/working_papers/wp2/.

Article 3:

http://www.babycenter.com/0_getting-your-toddler-to-listen_11531.bc