Relationship Reflections

What is in a relationship? There is so much confusion about what this term means. Re-la-tion-ship: n. 1. The condition or fact of being related; connection or association. 2. Connection by blood or marriage; kinship. 3. A particular type of connection existing between people related to or having dealing with each other: 4. A romantic or sexual involvement. In this definition of relationship it states that there are similarities that tie two or more people together in some way or fashion. The problem I am having with this is no matter how my people have tried to related and be on the same page of existence with the rest of the world. We are still seen as the minority and less than human. The statement that Shonkoff & Philips made in 2004 is hypocritical to me. When I think about this statement it I can only come to the conclusion that he was speaking of his own people and not anyone else for the sake of education. If we are to have “healthy” building blocks in relationships, we need to first drop the definitions and intellectual misconceptions that all people are equal and will be treated in that fact. For example, all of my life I have been looked down upon because of someone else’s misconception of what it is to be a man of the African descent. How did these relationships form or develop? From propaganda and self-hatred being spread by those who don’t understand why they are not the same. We have programs that want to paint a picture that people are seriously trying to get along no matter what creed you come from but it is just not true at all. We see it in politics, we see it in our education, and we see it in our homes as well. The mind is a powerful instrument to control or condition to a person’s will. The point that I am trying to make is that in the definition of relationship, the point of having any kind of spiritual connection with every living thing has been taken out of understanding which leaves room for error on the human level of existence. How can you make a relationship withstand the test of time? Be honest in your findings of the individuals that you come in contact with and share those experiences without bias. We as humans fail to do this time and time again. That is why we don’t live in harmony with nature. For those of us who are trying to reestablish that connection or relationship; there are those who don’t want to see the change due to fear of the unknown and unseen. I have come to the conclusion that looking for the good in people will only lead me to be lying to myself that all humanity will change for the better. There are too many egos and the need to fulfill the egos need is more important than survival and being in harmony with nature so we can be as one and get along with one another. There are too many power struggles and the destruction of the spirit and mind is always in the forefront of the battle for peace. The only relationships that I hold dear are those in which there is not judgment because my brainwave patterns are different; the fact that I would rather look at the sky versus looking at a television. The fact that I see no difference between man and woman except for the fact that woman holds all the keys to existence in her womb and man seems to want to always destroy that connection. I have no faith in man because man has destroyed so much of this world and taken away most of what kept us in harmony with the universe. What would my life be without the relationships in which I speak of? I will leave that up to you to figure out. I have answered the questions that the instructor asked me to answer to the best of MY knowledge. To try to reflect on someone else’s beliefs and understanding will take away from my own experience. I hope you understand, I don’t see relationships with people, I see their spirit because that is what they are. As a childcare professional, dealing with children is to deal with the spirit in its purest form. Who would I be to taint that being the way most of the world has done already? My job is to protect and teach these special children how to protect themselves against that sort of corruption as well. Thank you…